In 1996 in Portsmouth, Virginia I was at a lounge, Riverside having a blast. I danced to club music that I loved. The club was crowded. Everyone jumped around like acrobats and spun around like graceful ballerinas. Everyone was bumping into one another and stepping on one another toes; there was pushing and shoving amongst all.
I just happened to be one of the people who were being shoved due to my two left non-rhythmic dancing feet. Anyhow, I continued to dance. I found that I was shoved by the same guy about 10 ten times who gave me a warning while pointing in my face. “I am going to get you girl.” He repeated and kept pointing until the remainder of the night. Finally the lights came on.
The drunken guy looked dumbfounded standing next to his girl friend that had a smirk on her face, and told him, “I told you that is not her.” Then, she turned to me, and said; “He thinks you are his girlfriend dancing with another guy, so he is mad.” We both laughed. So what is the purpose of silly story?
Dating. Do we really know whom we date and how they look? We can date someone for years without knowing the real person. Truth Finder, Been Verified, and social media alone do not inform us of whom our significant other truly is. We still can be in for many surprises – alcoholic, messy, mean and other unknown characteristics.
Usually when we have an interest in someone we wear masks. Eventually though, we have to remove them showing our original bare faces. When we do, opportunity stands for acceptance or rejection. Since honesty is the best policy it is best to not wear a mask in the beginning because we know whom we are dating instead of wondering and going to the Internet to find out.
It is important to explore our significant other without judgment. Finding out his or her weaknesses, strengths, ideas, hobbies etc aid in discovering the true one. Once we discover what our significant other has revealed to us we can feel comfortable that we are with the right one, and if not, well…we can make some choices.
We can feel safe with our lover while not have to worry about being unsure of how they really look until we go out, only to discover who they are someone else after the lights come on.
S o n j a M a t t i s o n
Contributing ( Lifestyle ) Writer